r/EctopicSupportGroup • u/rose_feet_life • 9d ago

Advice?

I had an old friend message me after seeing my post about my ectopic pregnancy and she responded with oh it will happen one day, you will be a mother one day. And I couldn’t help myself but blow up on her. She had a chemical miscarriage within her first 2 weeks. Which I understand miscarriages are also hard to handle. But she compared my adnexal ectopic pregnancy to her chemical pregnancy and was acting like I wasn’t a mother. Am I in the wrong for blowing up on her and educating her the difference between the two? I was actively bleeding out and the baby had a heart beat of 130bmp and the doctors told me I would have died within a week if I continued to carry.

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u/PurpleEntrepreneur26 8d ago

I’m so sorry, it really doesn’t feel comparable. It still pains me to write it as a miscarriage on a form when it is truly so different. Not the same but my cousin had an HSG and said she was “just so scared of an ectopic” after it happened to me while she was also trying for a second baby. I was fuming.