r/EctopicSupportGroup • u/rose_feet_life • 9d ago

Advice?

I had an old friend message me after seeing my post about my ectopic pregnancy and she responded with oh it will happen one day, you will be a mother one day. And I couldn’t help myself but blow up on her. She had a chemical miscarriage within her first 2 weeks. Which I understand miscarriages are also hard to handle. But she compared my adnexal ectopic pregnancy to her chemical pregnancy and was acting like I wasn’t a mother. Am I in the wrong for blowing up on her and educating her the difference between the two? I was actively bleeding out and the baby had a heart beat of 130bmp and the doctors told me I would have died within a week if I continued to carry.

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u/TheBoredWriter1 9d ago

Anyone who says “You’ll be a mom some day” is so insensitive. I believe you become a mother at conception, whether that baby is in your uterus or on your ovary. I’m so sorry for your loss. It was real and you ARE a mother!