Advice?

[u/rose_feet_life]

I had an old friend message me after seeing my post about my ectopic pregnancy and she responded with oh it will happen one day, you will be a mother one day. And I couldn’t help myself but blow up on her. She had a chemical miscarriage within her first 2 weeks. Which I understand miscarriages are also hard to handle. But she compared my adnexal ectopic pregnancy to her chemical pregnancy and was acting like I wasn’t a mother. Am I in the wrong for blowing up on her and educating her the difference between the two? I was actively bleeding out and the baby had a heart beat of 130bmp and the doctors told me I would have died within a week if I continued to carry.

[u/DG-Mind]

I understand how you feel. It’s a lot to deal with…..especially just coming out of surgery and everything happening SO quickly all at once. I definitely agree with you that going through an ectopic is a vastly different experience than a chemical pregnancy. People just don’t understand or know what to say. I don’t think she meant any harm and was probably trying to uplift you but that can feel as if she’s neglecting your pain. You’re allowed to feel everything that you feel and it’s not going to be pretty (also with crashing hormones). Just look after yourself to heal, she’ll (hopefully) understand you’re going through a lot right now and emotions are raw. Sending you lots of love ♥️