r/ENFP • u/Cold_Pomegranate7039 • 8d ago

Question/Advice/Support Does anyone struggle to explain things logically?

It's not a question for the enfps necessarily but I don't feel like asking elsewhere. So people often say they can't understand what I am saying.

I myself don't sometimes. 💀 My answer is coming from 10 different ideas or experiences collectively and I can't point it out easily. It takes time for me to clarify things. Maybe it's being slow to process. And no matter how much I try, half the story is in my mind. The other person has no way to know.

I like to debate but it's hard because of it. Any similar experience or anyone who could overcome it?

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u/ninzai7 ENFP 8d ago

Yes.

I hate it. A lot.

The best thing that works for me is when I'm speaking with someone who isn't trying to debate me. When they're open to having a discussion instead, where there is no "winner," where there is no "right" answer, and when we can revisit a topic multiple times.

Someone else who's curious like I am.

It makes for great back and forth, and regardless of where either us started, it lets us both come out with a far better, more nuanced understanding through the process.

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u/Cold_Pomegranate7039 7d ago

Yessss I'd agree!!

Debating sucks for me. When someone asks why did you say that, it's 10 reasons underneath and I'm like fshkhojojhgkhikko