r/DivorcedDads • u/LaCathedrale • 2h ago

What is your best one-sentence piece of advice?

I think this advice should really be something you have come to learn/understand/prove, rather than something you're repeating.

  • Everyone says to cut out alcohol and everyone being told half-ignores it - but it really is the cheat code to maximising your alone-time and making the time you have your kids the most productive and enjoyable: no risk of raised voices or impatience during, no hangovers or tiredness the day after.
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u/VincentValensky 1h ago

Taking care of your kid sometimes means taking care of you.

Being a good parent shouldn't become an excuse to light yourself on fire. Your kid deserves a happy, healthy father for YEARS down the line. As divorce makes everything come crashing down, you should know your limits and accept that not everything can be 100% perfect 100% of the time. Avoid mental breakdowns, heal and recover, and remember to be kind to yourself.

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u/LaCathedrale 52m ago

I found this with early years parenting sometimes - if kid is fed, watered, clean, warm, dry, etc. then sometimes it's OK to just take a few minutes to breathe.

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u/fiddsy 1h ago

Dont marry the woman with daddy issues.