r/DID • u/throwezway • 1d ago

Advice/Solutions Some parts want to introduce themselves to my friend

I typically don’t disclose my DID to people, but I have disclosed it to two friends. One of these friends I trust very deeply, enough that other parts sometimes come out when we’re hanging out, or message the friend. I have never in my life overtly switched in front of a friend, or introduced myself as a different part. But there have been several times when parts have wanted to introduce themselves and “get to know” my friend.

Is it a terrible idea to let this happen? I try desperately not to let visible signs of this disorder show, but I also really trust this person. But I also would never want to make them uncomfortable.

I don’t really know what to do. I want to stay close to my friend and not ruin things, but I also feel like it’s going to just kinda happen one day, because I can’t control myself.

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u/strawberrystained Treatment: Active 22h ago

i don’t think that it’s a terrible idea, but i would try easing into it; maybe mention DID once or twice in conversation to gauge their reaction and opinion on it before fully sharing that you have it, just to make sure that they’re a safe person to disclose it to

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u/throwezway 16h ago

To be clear, this is one of the two people who knows I have DID- I’ve already disclosed, and they were very casual about it and didn’t other me, which is the only reason I’m considering this. They’ve shown that they don’t treat me as my disorder and it seems like their perception of me hasn’t changed since disclosure. But like I said, I’ve never actually let anyone get to know my parts, nor have they ever felt safe enough to let themselves be known.

I don’t even know if it would actually happen. But I spend a lot of energy right now appearing “normal” even when triggered, and am wondering if it might be worth trying to stop fighting it so much.

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u/strawberrystained Treatment: Active 8h ago

oh! apologies then, i misread. if they’re already very chill, then hopefully nothing should change if you start unmasking. it might be better to start with parts that you know are more comfortable with being known (or if you’re unsure, try and ask them), just make sure no one who’s uncomfortable with being perceived feels super vulnerable, and show them that it is safe and okay.

for me, with the very few people that i have told about my parts, i always start with my main protector. i know that she is the most comfortable with being known, and if anything goes awry she’s able to front and handle it (and if all goes well, since she has some of the best communication with the others, she’s able to communicate and show that it’s safe!)

hope everything goes well with your friend!