r/ArcRaiders • u/Cal_2307 • 2h ago
Question Increase in being targeted?
I'm a female player and I'm not sure if I'm just on an unlucky streak recently but I've been receiving an increased amount of horrible comments from players in this game.
I'm mostly a PVE player and I have no issues with PvP. If I get lit up, I'll try my best to fight back and if I don't win, so be it! It's part of the game. I'll just recraft my gear, load back in and go about my business. GGs.
But what I DO have an issue with, is the way I'm spoken to sometimes. Had a guy just this morning ask me for heals so I happily gave him some and said "yeah I gotchu." And he paused then asked if I was using a voice changer so I said no, and he immediately lit me up.
Also recently had a guy down me, so I said GG and he immediately started to make comments about how he'd R*pe me if he could.
Had another guy on a separate occasion tell me he hopes I get r*ped and murdered and on the raid after that, I was targeted by a group of solo raiders doing the close scrutiny when I asked if anyone had spare alloy they could give me and they immediately turned on me, mass shooting me and telling me they hope I get cancer, how they hope I have horrible things done to me and all that bull.
I've spoken over the mic and immediately had people seek me out to kill me when they realise I'm a woman and I was just wondering if anyone else has experienced this. It won't ruin the game for me, I'll continue to play but I just don't understand it. This only seems to have become a repeated issue lately. đ€
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u/ProfessionalPiece403 2h ago
Something like "I would rape you" should be a permanent ban. Embark is way to soft on those assholes.
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u/Cal_2307 2h ago
This exactly. There's talking a little trash and there's blatantly crossing a line that shouldn't be crossed
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u/ProfessionalPiece403 2h ago
Yeah. Call my mom names or whatever, but something like that or racism should always result in a permanent ban.
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u/UnusualFee8053 2h ago edited 1h ago
Yeah, that's not a trash talk, that's just a trash person.
Unfortunately to the OP, you have part of the gaming community that are neckbeard, fedora, anime loving fat guys who are attracted to the children and for some weird reson they hate women.
Another part of the gaming community is this edgy teen things that "women belong in the kitchen", not that they really have any thought and reason behind it. It's just a herd mentality to be part of something bigger.
I'm sorry for all you girls out there.
I'm personally treating everyone same. I would kill you on sight.
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u/Cal_2307 1h ago
And see that? That's fine. I don't care if you kill me on sight because that's part of the game, I'll accept it and move on with my raids. It's when you blast people with gross comments thats the issue. Keep playing the game how you want to, just don't be telling people you hope they get raped yknow đ
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u/Edgar-Little-Houses 2h ago
Damn. I know some people in game are crazy and talk shit, but what these guys are willing to say to girls is fucking unhinged. I hope matchmaking gets better for you soon
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u/MrBulwark 2h ago
A lot of lonely dudes who are going to get even more lonely by stupidly following the lead of idiots like Tate and his ilk. Sorry you have to deal with that shite.
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u/JerryCornelius22 2h ago
These people are scum - apologies from the decent male players - we do exist.
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u/MadJesterXII 2h ago
Lol⊠why are you making those people out to be the average when they are a vocal minority
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u/Brohbocop 2h ago
That really sucks. The comments you heard are insane and Id hope embark would permanently ban for that...
That said, while 90% of the interactions on the game are positive, when it gets into PVP I hear some really shitty stuff.
I kinda wonder if people who are a bit more outcast or just bitter in real life play games. Which is why you hear more racist and mysoginist stuff happening.
Idk, that sucks though, everyone should be able to just play a game without getting attacked for your voice.
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u/Cal_2307 2h ago
They tend to get even more mad if they target me and I win lmao, those occasions are always funnier. I do absolutely have positive interactions and I met one of my closest friends on this game (ironically after I shot him first because I was itching for a little fight that day) and he was so chill and laughing about it that he added me and we've been a duo ever since
It's just recently things have been so different for some reason
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u/moxiemoon 1h ago
I donât know if they sound young to you, but thereâs an overall increase in a lot of unsavory behavior in game starting last week when school started summer break. These kids are absolutely diabolical. If youâre on PC perhaps disabling crossplay can reduce your matchmaking with them. Thatâs what Iâm hoping will work, but I donât know if it will. As a woman in this game Iâve also heard some terrible things just because Iâm a woman also but nothing that bad. Iâm sorry that happened to you, it is absolutely inexcusable.
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u/RocknRolling67 2h ago
I play with my good friend who is both female, and a long time gamer. We are both primarily PVE, but things are always dicier when we play Trios together.
I hate to say this, but âeveryâ time someone is on mic when she gets into PVP, it involves slurs against her. Itâs disgusting.
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u/Dr_Malignant 2h ago
Iâm sorry youâre experiencing this. Gamers are stupid, and importantly, anonymity is the shield of the coward. Racists, sexists, and bigots of all sorts willfully reveal themselves when shielded behind a screen.
Iâm a man of color, and even if people donât hear me speak, theyâll still use the N word. I literally donât respond to it AT ALL. I donât get annoyed, I donât say anything, I donât make a reddit post, I donât even vent to my friends.
Why? Because this is almost certainly a child or preteen, or an adult with mental health issues. I have way too much going on in my life to dedicate any amount of time, energy, or emotions to such an individual. So I donât, and my gaming experience greatly benefits from it.
Just my own perspective but I highly recommend it to others in a similar boat, like yourself.
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u/youleftthisat 2h ago
They are mostly incels and its so obvious they are projecting. And would probably be upset if you called them that and theyd probably cry about it.
Anyway, im a woman and I usually play with my husband and brother, and ill let them do the talking. When I play single, I try not to talk and use emote or flash lights, but so far I havent had encounters like those OP described. Im sorry you went through that.
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u/According-Caramel958 1h ago
Iâm a female player as well. I have yet to run into this but if I do I will quickly record the last 15 seconds of it and report them. Please make sure you report them. I am so sorry you are dealing with this.
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u/Cal_2307 1h ago
Yeah I played for 200hrs barely ever experiencing it until recently it's been really weird Always open for duo!
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u/leksoid 1h ago
some people would say that how others behave in game is not a reflection of who they are. ..... I disagree with that. Games do show who people really are. Sorry you hear that in game. Thats truly horrible
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u/Cal_2307 1h ago
People believe they can get away with anything through a screen. Any half decent person would never think of saying those things. I'm not going to sit here and say I'm the nicest person you'll ever meet, I've said some shit in the heat of the moment just like "aw man fuck off" while frustrated but never would I ever wish something like r*pe, cancer or murder on someone, especially not over a game đ
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u/redpony6 22m ago
that's utter lunacy to me. that might be true for a single player game. lord knows i've had some super messed up rimworld colonies, lol, i wouldn't say i'm actually secretly pining for institutionalized cannibalism.
but in a multiplayer game, where you are interacting with people, this is exactly who you are. your ability to act otherwise in other contexts is irrelevant.
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u/Dibraldinho1105 1h ago
PrĂłximas vez, se puder, grava, e pegue o nick da pessoa e reporte para a embark, isso Ă© ban permanente. Mas espero muito que isso nĂŁo aocnteça mais com vocĂȘ.
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u/okverynoice 2h ago
Sorry you're going through this and it's affecting your experience in this game.
Sad to say that companies ignore that kind of behaviour since those morons give them money.
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u/Cal_2307 2h ago
I usually don't let it get to me, but sometimes it does drag me down for a lil bit, admittedly as someone who's dealt with what they're wishing on me. As I said I'll keep playing, I won't be pushed out but it is an inconvenience.
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u/okverynoice 2h ago
We're probably not from your country but me and my friends are always looking forward to meet new people on topside.
If you feel safe and secure enough we can play together. If you prefer to hang out by yourself it's alright too!
Hope your experience improves, everyone deserves to have fun!
Once again, I'm sorry about what you have to deal with.
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u/woahboooom 2h ago
good luck with better match making. Seems that there are a load of idiots on there. I've met one or two women on a game, I've helped them where I could, but mainly kept separate... True it is nice to be with others, but sometimes it just isnt worth it.
Again, hope you get better match making in the future!
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u/MediocreGamer5 2h ago
I have 500hrs topside. And when Im on solos, I dont ever turn my prox chat off. No voice changer, and my name literally has the word girl in it. Ive never experienced that in my care bear lobbies. Theres little to no pvp in any of my runs. Just the occasional dipshit that slips in. Im sorry you go thru that. Aim for the care bears. We'll treat you right đ
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u/No-Sir-8051 1h ago
Sadly is the reality of many multiplayer games, some severely terminally online young boys just dont know how to interact with the opposite gender.
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u/snowblind2112 1h ago
These are pathetic, weak people desperately trying to convince themselves they have any semblance of power. It has nothing to do with you personally (which in no way diminishes how awful it is). Shitty people have & will continue to exist. It's our duty to carry on in the face of their insecurities.
I'd report anyone like that, hopefully they're dealt with.
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u/colorale 1h ago
Sorry this happens to youâŠ
Hope you encounter better humans topside moving forward!
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u/Mean_Value_Cheese 1h ago
You should absolutely record it and report it, people are right that this is perma-ban territory
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u/thematrixiam 1h ago
report it.
Come here and post like you're doing.
Most we can do is create an issue about it and hope Embark catches wind.
People do get bans for this sort of thing.
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u/EldenEdge 1h ago
i play with my gf a lot, never had a bad experience in vc on any game except Marvel Rivals where it was rampant lol i guess unlucky buckets of matchmaking
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u/blackop 1h ago
Some people have something so wrong with them at a fundamental level. I hate that girls have to go through this shit when they just want to chill and game just like any dude. Sorry OP, if there is one thing I know about most girls that game is they have really tough skin, and It sucks that you have to be that way.
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u/Cal_2307 58m ago
I used to be so sensitive dude. Honestly I used to be such a crybaby, but playing these sorts of games as well as working the job I work has really toughened me up and I can handle it now. Doesn't make it okay though!
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u/InSatanWeTrust666 1h ago
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u/Cal_2307 1h ago
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u/InSatanWeTrust666 1h ago
Just these posts come up ALOT on Arc raiders subreddits
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u/Cal_2307 1h ago
Maybe because it's a problem and these sorts of comments shouldn't be allowed?
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u/InSatanWeTrust666 1h ago
Why the false report?
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u/Cal_2307 1h ago
I didnt report you? What do you mean?
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u/InSatanWeTrust666 1h ago
I just got a notification from Reddit after I made a comment saying it got reported when nothing was wrong with it?
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u/Cal_2307 1h ago
There WAS nothing wrong with what you said, which is why I didn't report you. I'm not sure.
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u/DynamicBSdetective 2h ago
A lot of sons have been brought up learning how to hurt others because they are insecure. They don't manage their emotions, mostly kids and young adults, but they exist in elderly form, too. I'm proud of your thick skin.
It's summer, end of school year in the US. NA servers will not calm down until late August. The raiders I killed were all kids, mostly free kits. Although, I appreciate the dude camping extract in Buried City like that being such a poor shot and giving me his anvil, hullcracker, and renegade with attachments.
I highly recommend judging Everyone who walks behind you, ask for ANYTHING, or says an unusual word. These are traits of someone scoping your kit, evaluating if you're a desirable target or when to execute. Take no bullshit.
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u/Cal_2307 2h ago
I should have realised what was about to go down when the guy in buried city asked about the voice changer but it was my first match of the morning and id barely woken up so my situational awareness wasn't quite there yet đ
I'm usually pretty good at keeping a good eye on what's going on. I don't take my eyes off people when they run by until they're out of sight and I try to keep scopes on people's positions when they're in the same building and how their interactions twinge my intuition. It usually serves me well but I still get caught off guard here and there.
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u/DynamicBSdetective 1h ago
That's how they win, by surprise! They don't want a fight, they want to win! I'm sorry if I came off as telling you what do to. Best of luck topside, Raider!
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u/314rocky 2h ago
Idk what Embark is doing when it comes to the coms. "Its online gaming", or some generic comment about COD lobbies isnt an excuse for the weirdo shit.
This community will kill the game long before the studio does, but it aint a good look to keep letting this happen to people.
Hopefully your positive interactions are outweighing the good ones.
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u/Knicknacktallywack 2h ago
Iâm not surprised, I think youâre just on an unlucky streak. I will say I think the bad weighs with the good. If you have a thick skin and donât let the really bad comments get to you, the amount of male players that will simp to women gamers evens out the bad. I donât simp but I will be pretty damn nice to women when I hear them in prox chat. I also think women players are very trustworthy in this game, never had one backstab me so I immediately trust them and will work with them even more
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u/JuxtaPostBl0g 2h ago
Nobody has to know you're female. If voice chat is causing that much grief, you could always stick to the Arc Raiders voice wheel and avoid revealing personal details. That said, the behaviour you're describing is pretty pathetic. I've noticed older players are often more relaxed and less likely to react that way, whereas younger players can sometimes be more toxic and impulsive. Either way, there's no excuse for threats, rape comments, or targeting someone because they're a woman. Hopefully the devs continue cracking down on that sort of behaviour.
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u/Kreynard54 2h ago
But what I DO have an issue with, is the way I'm spoken to sometimes. Had a guy just this morning ask me for heals so I happily gave him some and said "yeah I gotchu." And he paused then asked if I was using a voice changer so I said no, and he immediately lit me up.
This isn't on the same level as the other stuff you're mentioning. But its probably a situation where he assumed an easy kill and went with it. As upsetting as it sounds based on you describing yourself as a PVEr, they were "right" however, i have a female friend i play with regularly that talks mad shit to dudes being lesser when she kills them and its hilarious. So theirs a certain amount of both ways toxicity.
The other examples however, are absolutely ridiculous and not okay. Those situations should result in a ban IMO.
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u/Cal_2307 1h ago
Yeah I worded the paragraph weird that wasn't the main issue but that is still frustrating. I wouldn't say I'm an easy kill, I can defend myself pretty well now but it was my first raid of the morning and I wasn't quite aware the way I should have been yet so I didn't gauge the situation right. It's the fact he was only friendly to me until he discovered I wasn't a man, that's what was frustrating. :))
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u/Kreynard54 1h ago
Eh it happens, some dudes are just weird like that and think its funny. Theirs a few streamers ive seen be like "ITS A GIRL", and start shooting which can be seen as funny and as ive said i laugh when my friend i play with talks smack to guys as if they're lesser for being killed by a girl. I kinda laugh at both circumstances because of how stupid and over the top it is.
Its dumb humor but its humor none the less. Sorry you're dealing with the negative stuff but I wouldn't internalize the first one as much.
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u/Dismal-Reflection404 1h ago
My wife turned her mic off and I told her to just not speak anymore. She just uses the emotes. It's fucking bad.
I will say this though and it's a fact...women have done themselves no favours by being so cruel to men for no reason other than to get what they want. It has made some men HATE women. It doesn't make it okay and it isn't acceptable, but that's the reason it's happening.
There used to be a time whem women were baby stepped and protected by men at any cost. Women ruined it for themselves.
Do what my wife did and turn the mic off.
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u/Cal_2307 59m ago
Some women can be assholes yeah, I'll never say all women are innocent because some can be pretty misandric but I wouldn't say I agree with your take in saying that's the reason all this is happening
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u/Dismal-Reflection404 37m ago
No disrespect intended here at all, but I don't need you to agree. I listen to my wife telling me what women do because she is one. I listen to the raw data on why men are staying single instead of getting involved with a women. I accept that some of the best minds in phycology have released their findings on what has happened to traditional relationships and how women have killed them.
My wife and I have an understanding. She keeps me fed, watered and well and in return she gets whatever she wants when she wants, and I will die for her if I have to.
Honestly you sound like a lovely lady from what you said in your post. It doesn't sound like you've actually looked into this subject because why would you.
Men are assholes, like to the maximum assholes, but women know how to be cruel like I've never seen. Men have had enough of it. Some "men" take this to the extreme and say what is being said to you in game, they are not men...they are animals,hurt men with no ability to control themselves or their vile mouths.
Just keep being you!
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u/Cal_2307 32m ago
Totally, no disrespect on my part either. We dont have to agree to still be respectful. Have a good one :)
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u/MadJesterXII 2h ago
Use the built in voice changer, make yourself sound like a dude, problem solved
Most people see girl gamers as an easy mark, and the psychos out there think they are free to say all kinds of crazy shit
Save yourself the headache and use the voice changer
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u/WuShane 2h ago
I donât have anything to say other than Iâm so sorry youâre experiencing this.