r/AmITheJerk • u/Golden-Ember-II • 9h ago
AITJ for stopping my parents from "having fun"?
I'm sorry if my English is bad, it's my second language.
It all started one day when I came back from a vacation and I (12 at the time, Male) was unpacking my parents' clothes from the suitcase and I found... lubricant. I tought they packed it wrong or something... I just couldn't get it off of my mind so I asked my mother, 46 at the time, why was it there and she said the obvious "peapole don't just have sex to have babies" and i was stuned. At the time, 2019, i didn't think peapole would do something like that.
Three weeks later, i was asleep, or at least trying to because my parents were... you know. And i couldn't sleep for almost 4 hours beacause i kept hearing them. I knew the time because i had my phone, but no headphones to atleast try to block the sound.
Back in the day i was innocent and my little sister was too (7 at the time) and i was just afraid that she heard them and got traumatized or something even though she slept like a rock.
One day, i told my mom to stop doing those things and she laughed at me, and said, "We will try son" what kinda scared me like, fym "try". My father(50 at the time) ot very mad at me and said that i was being selfish and that i wasnt the only person in the house.
Am i the jerk?
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u/Reasonable_Wasabi124 8h ago
Lol. Yeah. It's embarrassing, but just be glad they still like each other. Good for them. đ
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u/auntie_beans 8h ago
Well, yes. Sexuality and its expression changes over the years but itâs nobodyâs business but their own. (75 and 90 here, and still âhaving funâ in our own ways.) You can ask your parents to keep it down. But you cannot ask them to stop. Your mom is right, sex isnât,solely for the purpose of making babies.
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u/Amonette2012 9h ago edited 8h ago
YTJ, get some headphones. You seriously asked your parents to stop having sex? That's incredibly entitled. Unless they're being purposefully loud and inconsiderate they are entitled to have as much sex as they want!
You will be 50 one day and most likely almost as horny as you were as a teenager.
Also, do you not want them to have a healthy relationship for yours and your sister's sake? Dead bedrooms kill marriages. Sex bonds couples. It relieves stress and ends arguments. It's good for your entire family that your parents are still shagging. Get over it and apologise to your parents.
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u/Midnyte25 8h ago
You can ask them to keep it down, but you can't ask them to stop all together. So, Soft YTJ, but so are they for not even trying to keep their volume down.
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u/happyrunnergirlie 8h ago
You are not only a jerk. But entitled as well!!!
How old are you now?
Do you expect everything in the house to revolve around you?
Source= 50 year old mother of 3
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u/MidwestNightgirl 8h ago
I would not say youâre a jerk. But, sex is a natural thing and it isnât anything to be ashamed of. Of course your parents are having sex. I do think they should try to keep the noise to a minimum while there are children in the house. Headphones might be helpful, or I donât know if there are any options to move into a bedroom further away from theirs?
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u/Golden-Ember-II 8h ago
I used headphones for some months btw
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u/Evening-Push9871 8h ago
that is an unhinged way to deal with the situation but honestly it sounds like the only way to keep your sanity back then. some things you just cannot unsee.
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u/NegotiationBig9736 8h ago
Why canât just let have them do it. They are husband and wife, give respect and try to be understanding. You can ignore it if you want.
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u/Unicorn_Fruit 8h ago
YTJ. I hope that youâve grown up since then, though doubtful since you made this post.
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u/Twig-Hahn 8h ago
You're telling your parents not to have sex and you think they're the jerk?!? Get over yourself. This has to AI. Shalom you're loved đ
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u/Worth_Kangaroo_6900 8h ago
As a child, no. Thereâs no way you can understand that stuff - thereâs a reason why thereâs an age of consent and thatâs when (in theory) you can begin to figure sex can be normal and healthy. Awesome that your mum answ
As an adult? Take it as a reminder to be mindful of kids in your house but enjoy sex. Be natural and own whatâs normal and healthy in an age appropriate way that respects their right not to have your sex life interfere with their autonomy (ie no sex toyâs left intentionally out). That stuff.
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u/Amonette2012 8h ago
He's 16...
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u/Worth_Kangaroo_6900 6h ago
Hadnât done the maths, so thanks! My comment about as an adult stands though - sometimes way we learn how to behave is watching how people do behave.
And also makes sense to have the questions at 16. Itâs figuring it out time. Deffo not a jerk at 16 with this and questions. Sorry that the response you had from dad so closing down rather than acknowledging that this stuff is, quite literally, messy.
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u/NYC-WhWmn-ov50 8h ago
Not a jerk because parents should know their kids dont deal with this well. I mean, how many jokes have been made sonce the firat cave-kid walked in on cave-man and his cave-wife and cave-kid learned about dinsaurs and bees? But parents are humans doing what humans do naturally and that includes forgetting the results of a previous good time might not want to know they werent delivered by a magical stork.
For every parent who has not wanted to explain where babies come feom, there is a child who wants to believe they can ONLY be adopted because NOT MY PARENTS!! You're old enough to know this. So go 'Ewww!' really loud and then take yoursel into the bathroom and run the shower.
Honestly, your mom's response to your request is probably healthier than most. Someday you'll have questions and ahe may actually provide usual answers. Consider that a gift, Most of is learn either through trial and error or porn. Neither is a good teacher.
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u/Relevant_Berry_2439 7h ago
Your about to be using all the Kleenex and making crispy Sox all the time. Turn up your TV and "clean your room".
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u/R7-AxonZafrine 7h ago
I donât think soâ but I think they just want to make have some fun, because being a parent is very stressing, but I think itâs their way to make them happy and lessen their stres
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u/ExcuseMeJack 8h ago
Four hours? Give your dad a high five from me