AIO. This guy from my class

[u/Sad-Economist-2688]

My teacher told me to socialize more with my classmates. Im a shy person. This boy I sit with started chatting with me then asked me for my Instagram. I was really happy since I dont have many friends.

First day of talking and three messages later I get this. Am I overreacting? Is this some sort of humor I just don't get? I'm not sure how to feel but I don't even feel comfortable to sit with him anymore.

Excuse my broken grammar and the dry humor in the photos provided please :(

[u/woolly8fun]

I’m sorry but you need to take this up with a principal or a higher up. It is not okay to tell someone that you would grape them. Not overreacting at all in fact I would even tell the teachers not to sit me near them

[u/Sad-Economist-2688 → u/woolly8fun]

I thought I was being crazy because the one friend I have didnt see any issues when I told her. Thank you for telling me I wasnt overreacting

[u/sunflowersandfear → u/Sad-Economist-2688]

OP they didn’t see an issue because y’all are young and this humor is normalized around teenagers esp. teenage boys now a days? It’s weird- This kid is one of many teenage boys who act like this. Does it make it okay or normal? No! Many of us are adults here and that’s why we think it’s not okay or normal because it isn’t and for this kid to grow up he will have to learn a hard lesson either being told “Hey man not cool” by his peers and shaping up or like this instant, reporting him and having his parents or authority figure tell him but he needs to learn this is sexual harassment and to think before hitting send.

[u/GhostTropic_YT → u/sunflowersandfear]

Normalised? I’m 17 and I’ve never seen rape or rape jokes normalised around people my age range. They’re the one thing that is usually off limits, ESPECIALLY if you are talking directly to a girl about it.

This guy is incredibly immature, or just not very smart, or genuinely not a great person.

[u/sunflowersandfear → u/GhostTropic_YT]

"This guy is incredibly immature, or just not very smart, or genuinely not a great person." Totally agree and that's awesome that in your community its not normalized! but in mine it was "boys being boys" growing up and only worsened as I've aged and the horror stories that I hear or have personally been around/seen not just irl but on social media (video game live chats is where you'll hear some vile things said to you as a woman by teenage boys lmfao). I have friends with 15-17 yr olds and live elsewhere/moved from our community and they are also very immature or been victim to some vile immature kids, its a contest who can say the edgiest thing between some teens. Not saying every kid is like this at all but it isn't uncommon sadly.

[u/GhostTropic_YT → u/sunflowersandfear]

Yeah I kinda get that edginess thing. Who can say the edgiest thing.

But, for me, at least, I noticed racist jokes are fine, same with jokes about nazism, homophobia, etc. But rape jokes are always off limits, no one says them. If you even try to, everyone would say that’s messed up, no one would like it (in my community, generally speaking).

[u/sunflowersandfear → u/GhostTropic_YT]

Yea some people will look at you sideways around here but for the most part even adults still make those jokes. (Small town everyone bored) but the kids are worse the amount of times I've been in a store and heard "i'm gonna r*pe you in the butt" from a teenage boy makes my head spin lol
I think another part of this people are VERY comfortable saying ANYTHING if it's behind a screen (even if their accounts connected to them irl). Like what would be considered sexual harassment people feel totally fine saying through a message, very weird to me.