I’m 8 weeks pp and find myself tearing when I think about all of the activities and quality time I had with my eldest before my baby was born. My eldest is currently 22 months old. And I feel like the last 3 months just flew by. I’m a SAHM and have been taking my oldest to a variety of classes and community outings since he was 6 months old. And now we just stay at home, walk to the grocery store, or go on a neighborhood walk. I have been able to take him to a few activities since baby arrived but nothing like what we once had. He is the sweetest little boy and I’m so obsessed with him. I miss when it was just the 2 of us during the day. I love my new baby but miss my time with my son. I’m constantly breastfeeding (baby won’t take the bottle) or trying to rock her to sleep. I squeeze in play time with my son but it’s nothing like what it used to be. I can tell he misses it too and it breaks my heart. Does it get better? Or will I always long for those special days of just the 2 of us?

I need some advice from moms who may have been through something similar.

I’m 4 months postpartum and just found out I’m pregnant again. For the last few weeks, I honestly thought I was developing postpartum depression because I’ve been emotional, angry, overwhelmed, exhausted, and not feeling like myself. It turns out I’m pregnant.

This pregnancy was not planned, and right now I’m struggling. I feel scared, hurt, angry, and overwhelmed. My husband is excited, and I want him to be, but I don’t feel like he understands what I’m going through mentally and emotionally. He seems to think I should just be okay, and I’m not.

I’m also heartbroken because my milk supply has started dropping. Breastfeeding has been really important to me, and watching my supply change has been hard.

Another thing I’m struggling with is that my husband recently got back into racing, which takes up a lot of time. Before, I was supportive of it, but now I feel jealous that he has a hobby and an outlet while my life revolves around taking care of our baby, pumping, breastfeeding, and now processing another pregnancy.

The day I found out I was pregnant, he left for hours with a buddy. I didn’t want to be alone with my thoughts, so I stayed with his friend’s wife until almost midnight before asking him to come back so we could go home. The next day he wanted to go somewhere with his dad, and now he’s gone again. This time he called my mom to come sit with me, which I appreciate, but I feel like he’s missing the point. I don’t just need someone here—I want my husband here.

Today I also forgot to put pumped milk in the fridge after having a headache all day. When I realized it had gone bad, I got so upset that threw it in the sink. My husband was angry and said being upset wasn’t an excuse and that I’ve been acting crazy for weeks. But I’ve been struggling for weeks and only now know there’s a reason why.

I know my emotions are all over the place right now, but I don’t know how to handle the anger, disappointment, fear, and grief I’m feeling. Has anyone been pregnant again this soon postpartum? How did you cope? How did you help your spouse understand what you were going through? And if your milk supply dropped during pregnancy, what happened for you?

Please be kind. I’m having a really hard time right now

Hi all! Im 7 mos postpartum and just found out im expecting my 3rd.
My oldest is born 3/24, second 10/25, this baby is due 2/27.
we will have:
34mo
15mo
newborn

this was completely unplanned and im honestly terrified. In both my pregnancies, I had preeclampsia but very minor complications and always controlled with medicine!

anyways, any and all tips. im also terrified of reactions and the way my life is being flipped upside down but this is also a blessing. we planned to wait 2 years until our third but i guess god had other plans. Im current working full time but going to figure out a way to stop working as my hands are truly full right now

edit: im EBF my second.

I am a mom of 2 - toddler and infant, and i am so fed up. Hate being a mom, its so exhausting. Why women have to go through this!! Why?

How did you all tell your boss that you’re pregnant again? I got back from my leave in January, and I’m due in October. I found out I was pregnant again mid January. I’m in the US and WFH

I was planning to tell my boss around 20 weeks if things look fine with the anatomy scan next month since I had a loss before. I’m just a little afraid of maybe being let go. There’s another coworker who’s pregnant and due in September with her first so that would leave just 2 people on the team when I leave as well. I was going to offer to take on more projects, but ever since learning that I’m pregnant again I’ve decided to just keep things as they are as much as possible. It just seems like a waste if I take on someone’s projects only to leave a few months later.

Been lurking for a bit, but just wanted some real advice from parents on the other side with a similar age gap. I’m due with my second kiddo in September. First will be 2 in October. Currently he’s nearly 20 months, and is doing all the normal toddler things. We try to talk a lot about the new baby coming, tell him a baby is in mamas belly (he points at my belly and says ‘baby’ now, totally adorable!), but we also know he really doesn’t have any idea what’s going on.

Is there something anyone would recommend doing to prep him for this baby? Any recommendations to make the transition as smooth as possible once new baby is here?

Currently pregnant with baby #2, we're having a 17 month age gap. All the parents around me with classical 2-4 year age gaps are reading books about becoming a big sibling, giving their toddlers baby dolls, practicing gentle hands, basically all the classical things you do to emotionally prepare the toddler. The toddlers are walking around talking about the baby in mummy's tummy and seem to be excited and semi aware of what's going on.

For those of you with an age gap of 18 months and under, what did you do to prepare the toddler and how long before birth did you start? How much do they actually understand when they're still babies themselves?

My husband doesn’t believe in post partum and thinks it’s all a ploy for me to get attention and to control him lol.

Found out he hired a prostitute when i was 8weeks PP
And just was approached by a girl online who he’s been talking with for months.

I’ve been to hospital to get help with PP issues and when I was in last I mentioned the argument we had where he went to far and threw something. CPS are now involved.

I’m leaving but it’s complicated as he’s on a visa and I’m the sponsor. If he gets deported that’s on me I feel. But I also don’t want to remain married to this person because he’s never done right by me unless it was to benefit himself. I want to sign the annulment as it’s not been a year yet (until next week).

I know it’s over.

How do I cope with 2 kids under 1 because that’s what it’ll be for the first year until 2 under 2 and I have no extended family here I’m an Aus citizen but all my family are back home over seas

Some actual Guidance would be hugely appreciated thank you

I knew this would be hard. I knew it would be even harder as a single mom. But my god. I have a 6 month old and 2 year old. I found out I was pregnant again 1 week after me and their father separated. I still wanted another baby so I thought “I can do this!”.

I’m so, so burnt out. Physically from managing the 2yo’s tantrums, and the 6mo needing to be held all the time, ripping my hair out, crying at me. The constant sleep deprivation. Mentally burnt out from their father dragging out a custody process, saying he wants more custody and then immediately going back on it whenever it’s offered to him. Plus his threats of withholding our children from me over any. little. thing.

I’m counting down the hours every day until I can go to bed and restart the process the next day. I’m heavily relying on family and support services just to get through each day. I feel like a bad mom for not being as present for my kids as I could be if I wasn’t at my witts end. I feel guilt for how much attention the baby demands from me, and takes away from my 2yo.

I can see the light at the end of the tunnel where both kids are older and won’t be so physically reliant on me and can play together, but it feels so far away. I’m trying to enjoy my 2nd’s baby stage since he’s a much happier, easier baby than my 1st was. But it’s so f*cking hard. You don’t realise just HOW hard until you’re already in it.

My sister who just moved back to our home state a few years ago with her kids is likely moving 1 hour away or out of state.

My mom already lives out of state.

It feels devastating and my sister doesn’t value our relationship or family bond. The reality is our kids won’t know their cousins that well. We won’t be able to travel frequently as a family of 4.

They aren’t moving because of a new job etc. they’re well off.

It’s hard for me not to perseverate on this. Another support leaving me. My kids not having a close relationship with their cousins.

It makes me cry and gives me anxiety. I’m also resentful of her for doing this. There’s no good reason for her to move. She lives in a nice area and her kids have all they could want.

How can I not feel this way. Yet another family support gone.

What is the best bug repellent I can use for my toddler and 6month old??

The mosquito are getting back here and I still would like to take them outside with out them being covered in bites

We have just found ourselves pregnant at 6 months PP (surprise) and our 6 month old does not sleep. We don’t know what to do. Looking for people who may have had a similar experience and what your advice would be. We have tried sleep training even paid an extortionate amount of money for someone to come in home for 3 nights. We were her first failed client…..

I am a SAHM with a 21 month old and a 7 month old and oh my heavens, the past month has been the hardest yet. Never would I have imagined 7 months would be harder than the newborn stage.
Can anyone else say the same?
Here’s what’s going on: Ever since about 6 months old(maybe slightly earlier) my infant will NOT let me so much as turn my face away from her without her screaming bloody murder. I cannot do anything without her screaming at the top of her lungs and I’ve tried just about every approach to setting her down and carefully walking away. But as soon as I pick her up she’s fine. She hates her swing, saucer, stroller, and car seat. She used to love the saucer and would jump and laugh in it. Having a 21 month old who also needs my attention is making this impossible. Her crying has also recently began making my toddler cry, which was never an issue before.
My toddler was never like this at that age. Around 9 months old she got a little fussy whenever I would leave the room but it never turned into crying. I know every baby is different, but I did not expect this!!

Hi all! I'm 26 weeks with my second and my son is 11 months old. I've been looking into a double stroller and am struggling to find one.

https://a.co/d/018km48B

Has anyone ever used the baby trend infant and toddler? We don't have the biggest cars right now and I'm concerned about how it folds. We also don't want to spend a crazy amount since we were a little surprised having another baby so soon 😅

TIA!

Hello!
Expecting in September right around first baby’s first birthday! We are on the hunt for an ideal double stroller. We use the stroller a lot so it’s important. I just want to make sure what we get has life. Honestly the whole car seat compatibility is so confusing to me. We have a Chicco right now (stroller and car seat system). It served us well. In almost 9 months the tires have been destroyed! We have worn the thread through. Anyways, this time around, definitely willing to put more into the life of this this thing since it’s for two.
Thank you!!!

Sitting here at midnight, holding my 2 week old baby and just feeling...very detached. I get emotional when I think of my 20 month old. He is such a sweet little kid and it's such a fun age.

Then I think of my newest baby and yeah she's a cute squishy newborn but...she's a potato. I feed her, I rock her, I change her, rinse and repeat. She doesn't really have a personality for me to admire yet. And it makes me a bit sad. When my son was this age, everything was new and special and magical. With her, I'm just going through the motions and feeling sad that I don't have as much time to dedicate to my firstborn anymore. And waiting for her to become more aware, I guess.

So when did this change for you? I start getting a little paranoid that I will just always feel like this even though I know people say otherwise. My mom always had a clear preference for my two younger sisters and I don't want either of my children to ever feel like I don't love them just as much as the other.

I just found out im pregnant 9 months pp. How did I find out? Im still bf my son and my supply tanked with my ‘period’ and the heatwave. My sons diapers were really dry, he’s refusing to drink my freezer stash because he’s a little snob (high lipase) and I was beside myself. Decided to take a test and up pops the line before the control line could even come up.
I have no idea when this happened as we’ve been careful using condoms. I swore I was having a period but I bled with both my children so its not unusual for me. Any words of encouragement, advice, fairy dust I”ll take it.

Anybody have a problem with their 1-year-old hitting their 3-month-old and trying and trying to tell him to be gentle and show him. Did their youngest turn out okay.

I mean we weren’t exactly against having another baby but now I’ve seen the positive feel very blessed as I loved 2under2 but I feel so guilty about splitting our time!

Good morning, mommas!

Although still very early, we just found out we’re expecting baby number 2. Our daughter will be 6mo next week. I planned on nursing her until 24 mos, but now I’m seriously concerned given that im pregnant again (this was our plan, but I didn’t take in to consideration the risks of my nursing plan).

Do any mommas here have 2 under 2, that were nursing the first one? What did it look like for you? My heart is currently breaking for my daughter.

Hello, I will have a 16mo when her brother arrives in a few months. Did you give your older baby a baby doll before or after their sibling arrived? Do you recommend it or what do you recommend?

I’m 28M and my wife is 26F. We just had our first child, a daughter, nearing 8 months ago. I’m currently in school in a 20 week OIC program for IT and I’ll be done in July of this year. This was totally unexpected and might’ve just put a huge road block in our financial situation. Luckily, we had already talked to my mom about having her move in with us next year so my mom wouldn’t have to struggle on her own; she’s 69 and can’t afford to retire. Essentially, my mom would help us with our daughter (and now the newbie), so we wouldn’t have to pay for daycare, rent will be cheaper due to it being split between 3 of us and we’d have more help around the house. Win-win for everyone. As of now, I don’t make much because I’m not working full time but I’ve been blessed to have a side gig and a yearly gig that has kept us afloat since I started school back in March. My wife only has her CNA so right now we REALLY don’t have a big budget and she was really hopeful to go to school soon; but now it looks like that’s not happening soon. She also had post-preeclampsia during our first so I’m worried about that too.

Mine is realising at any given moment that in just 19 months, our baby will be the age our toddler is right now and doing things/talking like her 🤯

Wife is around 39 weeks and honestly we both expected her to give birth at this point 😅

We have all the basics set up already. Been trying to spend as much time with my first born as possible, caring for my wife. But I just feel like I’m in limbo waiting to be in newborn mode again.

Any advice on somethings i should be doing now and when our second comes to prepare or make things more comfortable or sentimental for the family.

Any advice of discussions would help and be appreciated 🙏🏽

I am 10 month PP and I just found out I am pregnant. Feeling really shocked and overwhelmed. We were not using protection but I just assumed it would take time to get pregnant. The last few years have been rough for me. Pregnancy has not been easy on me. First pregnancy was an ectopic, then a month later I got pregnant again but this time I suddenly lost my baby at 36 weeks (no issues during the pregnancy) and was born sleeping. You can’t imagine the pain I went through. 3 months later I got pregnant with my now double rainbow baby and as you can imagine that pregnancy was extremely difficult on me. I just survived that pregnancy hour by hour making myself go crazy always keeping track of my baby’s movements
Knowing they could die on me at literally any point in my pregnancy. There was no safe zone.
Now 10 months pp i am finally feeling like myself as breastfeeding has also taken a toll on my body. Also because i have just had back to back pregnancies.

I am feeling really overwhelmed. I’m scared I’m
Going to completely lose myself with 2 under 2. And I am dreading to go through another pregnancy as I find it very physically demanding on my body. I know it’s my own fault and I so upset at myself.