r/NYr4r Sep 14 '25

Moderator Approved Welcome to r/NYr4r – New York’s largest R4R Community 🔥 NSFW

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Whether you're seeking platonic friends, non-platonic friends, friends with benefits [fwb] / casual encounters, soulmates, travel mates, smoking buddies, groups to join, activity partners, etc. /r/NYr4r is the place on Reddit to find and seek in a community of 75K New Yorkers!

For any redditors in New York (Buffalo, Syracuse, Albany, NYC, Westchester, Ulster County, etc.): this is the place for you. - no complications, just real connections.


✅ Posting Guidelines:

The titles of submissions must be properly formatted or they will be deleted. The format for post titles is:

<age> [<r4r>] <your location/time zone> - <title>

Examples:

21 [M4F] #Manhattan - Looking for a friend

26 [F4R] #Bronx - I want a gamer buddy and somebody to chat with

28 [MtF4F] #SuffolkCountyLI - brighten up my work trip

30/29 [FM4FM] #Albany - Married couple looking for roleplay with another married couple.


🚫 What NOT to Post:

  • Spam, scams, or fake posts — Let’s keep it real.
  • Selling services or promoting ads — This is a community for connections, not business.
  • Harassment or inappropriate comments — Be respectful in posts and DMs.

🌐 Partner Community – Expand Your Reach!

Looking to explore primarily NYC instead of NY? Check out our partner community for more SFW and NSFW connections. It’s a great way to meet more people and widen your scope across the city!

Feel free to join and post to expand your reach and connect with even more like-minded locals across NY and NYC!


💡 For Successful Connections:

  • Be honest and clear about what you’re looking for.
  • Include SFW photos (if comfortable) to make your post more engaging.
  • Respect boundaries in the comments and DMs — no pressure, no pushy behavior.

Welcome to r/NYr4r — where New York meets its perfect match for fun connections of all types.


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r/NYr4r 43m ago

23 [M4A] #NYC - Any curious guys for a curious cute Asian sub? NSFW

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 Smooth, thin, cut, 100% STD free Asian College guy experimenting with sexuality. Looking for a top. Can be white or Asian, need to be 100% STD free, in decent shape and prefer cut but open minded. My pal can get a room either watch or tag team. Weekends preferred


r/NYr4r 43m ago

M46 [M4F] #NYC looking for an Indian woman with a great smile NSFW

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Im looking for one Indianor Asian woman to build a connection with and see where that goes. Open to any age or body type. Just be an adult...

Im an Italian guy from NYC. Looking forward to seeing if we are compatible. Send me a chat message if you are interested...

Willing to share pics if your interested ...

I am still looking if this message is still posted.


r/NYr4r 45m ago

28 [M4M] #NYC - Fit Curious Looking to Privately Suck Someone Who’s Also New To This NSFW

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Hi. I am into girls but also curious to explore being more submissive and to discreetly suck someone.

Ideally looking for someone who is also new to this that would like to just get sucked very privately for a simple, safe, and adventurous experience.

I am an easygoing regular dude, 28, and fit (approximately 175 lbs and 6 feet tall) and looking for someone similar.

Feel free to send me a chat if you would potentially be interested.


r/NYr4r 45m ago

33 [M4M] #Brooklyn calling all body builders NSFW

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Looking to learn from you.
I’ll meal prep and massage.


r/NYr4r 1h ago

28 [M4M] #NYC - let me give you a handjob NSFW

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Stats: 5’2, 135lbs, with a perky ass. I want a man, preferably older, who would love a sensual and passionate handjob. Not looking to meet right away and would prefer to chat first to see if we’re a good fit. Please be able to hold a conversation. Will not respond to one word or low effort responses. Pic in profile.


r/NYr4r 1h ago

33 [M4F] - #NY / online - married man needs a side piece NSFW

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As the title states, looking for girls that love to seduce married men and wants to be my side gf. Show me how much better you are of taking care my cock and making me cum. Love degrading too. I am into degrading my wife with you and comparing her to you. Im into girls that like to cuck other women. I know there are many of you out there so hit me up. I am a fit white dude here that loves to show off and get verbal. All girls welcomed, the sluttier the better. Yes i like all types so again dont be shy!! Cant wait to hear from you! Pm me


r/NYr4r 2h ago

38 [M4F] #NYC #LongIsland - Seeking smart, curious, and busty women for intellectual banter and filthy chemistry NSFW

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Avid reader and deeply interested in tech, science, medicine, law, business, strategy games, and markets. I genuinely enjoy meaningful conversations with sharp, intellectually curious women. 38-year-old professional bouncing primarily between Manhattan and the Midwest. For whatever reason, that's where the banks are, so it's not by choice but it keeps me employed in this tough market where the AI is coming to take our jobs, right?

I’m looking for single women 18 and older who are academically serious or professionally successful — whether you’re a college student (freshman or otherwise), in grad school, or already working in your field. Businesswomen, pre-med, pre-law, athletes, or anyone who takes their growth and ambitions seriously especially appeals to me. If you love reading real books and discussing ideas, we’ll probably click.

On the physical side, I’m very upfront about what I want. I have a high drive, virile side and I’m seeking single women with a matching high drive who are curious about being with an experienced man who can deliver the kind of sex many inexperienced guys can’t. Take STDs (have clean, will show results) and premature ejaculation out of the equation. Think multiple long rounds, balls deep loads, strong focus on deep, passionate sex, and the ability to thoroughly satisfy you for extended durations. My focus will be on making you cum - over and over.

No need for extreme kinks (except breeding if you're on BC), no toys, no pain, no drama — just really good, uninhibited, primal sex with clear consent and communication. I enjoy taking control in the bedroom once trust is built.

I’m drawn to women with full, large breasts (DD+ and up) and a naturally feminine figure. I'm not expecting models or anime characters, but at least an hourglass shape and a healthy diet/fitness routine. I care about my body and I expect you to as well.

If you’re intelligent, ambitious, over 18, and intrigued by the idea of both mental connection with a successful man and intense physical pleasure, I’d like to hear from you.

Send a message with:

• ⁠Your age
• ⁠What you’re currently studying or working on
• ⁠One book, topic, or idea that’s recently excited you
• ⁠A recent photo - It is preferable that you show your face, because I get tired of fake bots.

I’m selective and respectful. We can start with coffee or a real conversation and see if the chemistry works on every level. Meeting in public in an area you find safe is preferred.

Summer is coming. Let’s make it something memorable.

If you are currently active with other male partners (No ENM, no M/F couples), then I’m not interested.

Do not message me if you do not want to meet in person.
I don't play app, phone, or text games.


r/NYr4r 2h ago

35 [M4F] #Manhattan - Looking for mommy to edge and milk me NSFW

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35 M Asian, 5’10”, stocky build. I know I’m going to be bored at work. I’m looking for a mommy to edge and stroke me. I want you to feel my cock throbbing in your hands as you keep milking me. I do warn I cum a lot and I can go multiple rounds with a fast recovery. Drive me crazy with those hands and I’ll suck on your nipples as I lay in your lap


r/NYr4r 2h ago

29 [M4F] #queens work from home fun NSFW

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29 Latino M here looking to hang out and chat and see where things go. Happy to uber you to my place as well. If you’re down just send me a message!


r/NYr4r 3h ago

39 [M4F] #NYC - Looking for chemistry, banter and maybe some summertime chaos. NSFW

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Figured I’d give Reddit another shot since the apps increasingly feel like a part-time job with worse returns. I’m 39, South Asian, live in Queens with a very friendly dog, and generally come across as a fairly normal, responsible adult until people realize I have a significantly less wholesome side to me.

Outside the bedroom, I’m into cooking, trying new restaurants, stand-up comedy, documentaries, travel, live music, and wandering around bookstores convincing myself I definitely need more books I won’t immediately read. I’ve lived in multiple countries, can hold an actual conversation, and tend to get along best with people who are curious, witty, emotionally intelligent, and a little sarcastic. I recently started learning bass and it’s all I seem to think about lately. Hoping to meet someone distracting enough to change that.

Physically: 5’10, beard, glasses, brown eyes, average build. Usually told I look much more innocent than I actually am. 420 and 🍄friendly. California sober otherwise, but I don’t care if you drink.

Relationship-wise, I’m ultimately open to something meaningful if the chemistry is there, but I’m realistic enough to know this is still Reddit. I’d be very happy meeting someone for an ongoing fling, summer shenanigans, mutual corruption, restaurant dates that accidentally turn into sleepovers, etc.

Sexually, I’m definitely more adventurous than vanilla, but chemistry and comfort matter more to me than trying to speedrun intimacy. I tend to connect best with people who are open-minded, communicative, and curious, whether experienced or not. If mentions of things like play parties, group dynamics, toys, or “I’ve always wanted to try that someday” make you more intrigued than scandalized, we’ll probably get along well.

Not looking for perfection. Just someone attractive, funny, self-aware, emotionally functional-ish, and capable of both good conversation and bad decisions.

What's your most controversial opinion? Mine is that NYC needs to cool it a bit with its bagel love.


r/NYr4r 15h ago

[MF4M], 37M 30F, young British couple visiting #NYC this summer NSFW

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Hey all, young fit British couple visiting this summer for 2 weeks! HMU!


r/NYr4r 4h ago

29 [m4m] #brooklyn - any tops around this am NSFW

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Any tops in the area looking for discreet hookup? Can host in bedstuy near Williamsburg if you can travel. Love being face down ass up. 29 165 5’8 here. Shoot me a message and let’s plan something. No profiles less than a day old.


r/NYr4r 7h ago

40 [M4F] #NYC Bronx chubby dude seeks connection NSFW

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40 [M4F] #NYC Bronx chubby dude seeks connection

Hello all!

Hopefully everyone is going okay in their world

I'm looking for a connection first and foremost. Let it be that instant physical connection where we can't keep our hands, and our mouths off of each other. Or the intellectual connection where we engage in some mind fuckery first before the shenanigans begin 🤷.

I'm 40, Hispanic, 6'3 250lbs. Big teddy bear type with lots to love but far from sloppy physically. I smoke some good trees on the daily and my vast useless knowledge of all things nerdy usually make me s good time to converse and talk about the universe lol 🤣.

I'm open to all connections as long as you're a good human being.

My preferences tend to lean toward a more mature woman with a little more to love but honestly speaking, my curiosity is in overdrive so I welcome others who want to get down and chill.


r/NYr4r 7h ago

40 [M4F] #NYC Bronx chubby dude seeks connection NSFW

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Hello all!

Hopefully everyone is going okay in their world

I'm looking for a connection first and foremost. Let it be that instant physical connection where we can't keep our hands, and our mouths off of each other. Or the intellectual connection where we engage in some mind fuckery first before the shenanigans begin 🤷.

I'm 40, Hispanic, 6'3 250lbs. Big teddy bear type with lots to love but far from sloppy physically. I smoke some good trees on the daily and my vast useless knowledge of all things nerdy usually make me s good time to converse and talk about the universe lol 🤣.

I'm open to all connections as long as you're a good human being.

My preferences tend to lean toward a more mature woman with a little more to love but honestly speaking, my curiosity is in overdrive so I welcome others who want to get down and chill.


r/NYr4r 8h ago

29 [M4M] #NYC - discreet gaymer hosting for a dude to throat on the regular NSFW

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Cute, chill and discreet Gaymer looking for a dude; I could suck today and possibly on the regular safely. I find sucking dick therapeutic. I love the pleasure it gives and I want to throat a nice dude with a nice dick on the regular if possible. Slow and sloppy is my specialty but I’ll do it however you want .Looking to host. I’m submissive. Stats:
5'6 Dominican & Jamaican , 165 lbs. ( no face pics on here please send me a chat if this piques your interest.


r/NYr4r 18h ago

23 [M4M] #Westchester - Hop in my back seat and throat fuck me NSFW

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Clean and discreet. Looking for someone hot and fun to swallow dry 😈 Can’t host but down for car/public play.

Hit me up if you’re serious and available to meet! Mainly free nights. DL here so please be the same.


r/NYr4r 8h ago

24 [MF4M] #NYC - Athletic couple looking for a fit third, drinks first then we see where things go, can host NSFW

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24 couple based in Manhattan. He's 6'3 athletic bicurious, she's 5'6 brunette fit. Looking for a toned third for MFM. Can host midtown.

You need to be into guys and girls.

Under 30, fit, and real. Send a pic with your message.


r/NYr4r 12h ago

33 [m4m] #NYC #Queens #Brooklyn any gamers / creative types in Bushwick/Ridgewood wanna just hang & fuck? NSFW

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33 m nyc, 5’8” thicc 🍑🍑 white guy here, blend of masc and fem energies, generally into tall tops, age 25 to 40. DDF/safe only. Total bottom, love to make out, suck cock & get fucked - open to some kinks too. Generally into creative types - artists musicians etc. Tattoos, piercings, alt guys, etc.

Kinda want to catch a vibe lol. I’m into anime, video games, art, music, travel, etc. Love to cuddle and make out, I like a chill vibe. Can host at my place in Bushwick/Ridgewood for now or late nights. We could do an actual nice normal thing like play video games and watch anime - and then fuck, lol. Hmu 🤙


r/NYr4r 9h ago

24 [M4F] 2 Weeks and 2500 Miles Away with a Rule That Doms Hate (SF -> #NYC) NSFW

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Hello! I will be traveling to NYC in 2 weeks to look for apartments. I will be moving to the city full time soon from SF. I will be there for 2 days 1 night in a room in midtown.

Typically this is the part of the post where I would tell you more about me - but this is something you need to figure out. We have two weeks! So let me know what you need from me. Of course I will show off as you say. You will demand from me exactly what you need as if we were mailing back and forth. As you force more of me on screen you will have more and more of a desire to make me meet you... But I cant follow that command! Not yet. I am 2000 miles away in SF. Still have to go at it remotely for now.

So once I get on that plane and I am finally there the anticipation will have been built up dangerously high. You wont have a choice but to tell me where to be and see just what you are working with in person. Nothing will have satisfied you for 2 weeks, so your commands will be intense and direct as you instruct me on how to release all of this tension you have built up.

I am generally interested in more of a gentle dom approach so I think that precludes some of of the more intense things, but let me know what you are in to. The one piece of info I can share is that I am HWP and DDF. Also of course I can verify I am real on the other end.

Hope to have fun and chat soon! :}


r/NYr4r 12h ago

38 [m4m] #westchester #nyc #midtown seeking hung mature in need of service or JO. U must host NSFW

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I’m looking to stop by and drop to my knees and service a hung member until completion. I’m 38, 5’6”, 180lbs, in decent shape, Latino, attached, and std/hiv negative. Please be able to host during the day. You must be clean. STD/hiv negative. I’m seeking discretion. This could be a one time thing or more if things go well. Let’s chat if you’re interested. And please no one liners. Send your stats and get straight to the point. Pics for exchange as well.


r/NYr4r 13h ago

35 [M4F] #Brooklyn - You can ask you and beg all you want, I'm not pulling out... NSFW

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Hey Reddit,

Looking for someone local who wants the best of both worlds: a cool friend to hang out with, and a passionate partner behind closed doors. I’m craving that effortless, high-chemistry dynamic where we can grab a drink, skip the small talk, and get straight to the fun part.

**The Quick Stats:**

* **Location:** Based in Bushwick. Looking for someone nearby so we can make late-night plans on a whim.

* **The Vibe:** High chemistry, completely drama-free, and mutually respectful. I’m clean, safe, and very attentive.

**What I want:**

Someone open-minded and confident who knows exactly what they want. Let's explore each other's fun side without the pressure of a relationship. If you’re DDF, local, and ready to skip the dating games, slide into my DMs with a bit about you and what gets you excited. Let’s grab a drink and see if the spark is there. 😉


r/NYr4r 18h ago

[MF4M] - Married couple seeking BBC #Albany, NY NSFW

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**We’re a committed couple seeking a respectful, clean, and drama-free BBC.** Looking for a confident, mature **BBC (35–50 years of age)** who understands boundaries, honors consent, and values emotional safety. Must be **BBC between 9"–10"+**, well


r/NYr4r 15h ago

41 [M4F] #Huntington - On the boat... Because of the implication. NSFW

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Hey reddit, im 41 on long island, 6'1" 210lbs, short salt and pepper hair, green eyes, very fit and really (really) well hung. The long awaited Spring has be getting my boat ready for the water, I'm a pirate at heart and my favorite place to be is on my boat under the hot sun off on some nautical adventure. This summer, i'd love a pretty little pirate wench to commit various acts of debauchery with on the high seas. Maybe you have an eye patch and a parrot, maybe you have a peg leg and drink too much rum, the important part is you look good in a bikini and love the salt sea. If you're down to put handsome older buccaneer on your list of hot girl summer things to do maybe shoot me a message?


r/NYr4r 15h ago

25 [M4F] #NYC - Looking to destress and unwind NSFW

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Hey everyone, looking for someone to help each other destress and have some fun. Whether it’s a one time thing or a fwb. I’m game.

A bit about me: 25 Latino M. I’m about 5’7 and 140lbs. I would say I’m decently in shape. I workout and play soccer from time to time, when the weather allows me lol. I’m really into movies, any and all kinds. My current favorite movie is The Grand Budapest Hotel. So if you like movies, we’ll definitely get along.

If any of this is interesting to you, let me know and we’ll chat. Let’s get to know each other and see where we go from there.