Clara (35F) and I (33F) have been friends for roughly 9 years. She’s supported me through a major breakup, I supported her through financial issues, and we have basically been a pillar in one another’s lives for quite some time. Needless to say, there was a lot of trust there.

Back in my 20’s, I bought myself a Louis Vuitton bag as a celebration for graduating uni. I’d use this bag whenever I felt I needed a confidence boost, because it made me feel like if I could handle uni, I could handle anything…I don’t know why, it’s just how my mind works I guess.

Well this bag got quite a bit of wear and tear over the years (although I’d prefer to say she was well loved), and Clara offered to get it refurbished for me while she was on holiday in Paris. I was apprehensive, but she insisted that it was a gift for helping her get back on her feet.

She took the bag with her to Paris, and I thought little of it, until I got a job interview and needed my little confidence boost to complete my outfit. That’s when I realised that Clara got back from Paris in January and I still didn’t have the bag.

I called her up to ask where it was, thinking she’d probably forgotten about it - I mean, I had too - and she said it must be in her closet somewhere and that she’d dig it out.

The interview wasn’t for a week, so I wasn’t worried.

But then I heard nothing from her. No random TikToks in my DM’s, no questioning whether game night is a go ahead that weekend, nothing.

After four days, I called her again and she said she’d be over that evening with the bag. Clara showed up, she handed me a Louis Vuitton box, and said she had to go…very unlike her because usually we’d catch up a bit.

As I was getting ready for my interview, I opened the box, pulled the bag out of the dust thingy, and noticed something was off. The “leather” felt a little too raised, and the stitching seemed a little too bright.

I didn’t have time to think about it just then, but I couldn’t stop thinking about the way it didn’t feel the same.

So when I got home, I inspected it closely. The zips are scratching, some of the inner stitching is loose, and the heat stamp has no numbering on it (as it does on authentic pieces).

This bag is fake.

I called Clara, and asked her what happened with my bag, and she stammered saying that she has no idea what I mean. She said she’s outraged that the store did a bad job refurbishing, and that she’s going to call them to complain…I’m sorry what? This bag isn’t even real!!

I called her out, and told her that if I didn’t have the real bag back by the end of the weekend, she’d be gone from my life.

The deadline was 3 days ago, and Clara has been a ghost in the wind for almost a week.

A couple of our mutuals say that I should keep the peace, while some others are outraged that she would essentially steal something sentimental.

I can’t help feeling guilty because she’s been there through the thick and thin with me.

So AIO for putting a bag before a friendship?

TL;DR: Friend stole expensive bag with sentimentality, replaced with a fake, AIO for end my the friendship?

Edit: The images are of the fake bag

My friend works in finance, and his office throws the team a celebration lunch at a nice restaurant when they have an exceptionally good “quarter” or whatever. Dates are allowed, and he said he was tired of being one of the only people to go alone every time. So, he asked if I would be his +1 this time. The dress code was business casual. I wore a loose, white, button down shirt, grey slacks, and 2-inch, leopard print heels.

He saw my shoes and said they were tacky. When I asked how, he replied that only “certain women” wear leopard/cheetah print. I questioned him further about what kind of women. He said the kind that wear print styles. I pushed him until he finally admitted he meant trashy women. For context, I’m also Latina. I don’t have proof because he didn’t explicitly say it, but his tone and the way he kept dancing around the questions felt really racially loaded. He’s probably referring to the “chonga” stereotype racists imagine when referring to “trashy” hispanic women.

I got mad and told him that I was doing him a favor, and that he needs to shut up before I get so angry I make us both look bad because I’ll either be upset the whole time or just not go to the lunch.

Was he right about the shoes? Should I apologize?

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So we planned the trip a few weeks back. We're all between the ages of 19 to 20 and we wanted to book a place to stay there on sunday and come back on Tuesday. I found the place so I booked and it was done under my name. Me and another one of my friends paid for the deposit but other than that we all split the price. The room situation for 6 of us 3 bedrooms and theres also a pull out couch. Anyways we went on call and her boyfriend is not coming but shes mad at me for blowing up at her for a mild request. I dont want to tell my friends cause I dont want anymore tension on the trip. So ive come here to just post this.

I (30’s F) have been casually dating someone (40’s M) for a little over a month. He’s spent the night at mine a few times now. The last time, he felt comfortable enough to go #2 in the morning. He gave me warning ahead of time. And I mentioned that I had poo-pourrí in the basket by the toilet if he wanted it…

He came out of the bathroom sort of upset looking. And he was unusually quiet while I made us breakfast sandwiches. He asked for his to-go. I knew that something was wrong. And I was replaying the night in my head. And it went really well. Things turned after he pooped. And I thought maybe he just felt embarrassed about it.

A short while after he left, he texted me, “it’s weird that you made me dive into your period shit to have some self respect about an actual shit.”

wtf? Did I do something wrong? Am I overreacting to think that he’s way out of line? This seems crazy to me. But should I, a single woman who lives alone, make my bathroom more accommodating to people of the opposite sex? Are period products really that offensive?

So my friend’s boyfriend added me on Facebook and I accepted it without really thinking twice. To me, it didn’t seem like a big deal, I just assumed he added me because I’m her friend. But when she found out, she got really upset and said it was weird that I accepted it, even though he was the one who sent the request. Now there’s tension between us, and I’m confused because I didn’t think it was that serious. Am I overreacting by feeling like she’s making this a bigger deal than it needs to be?

i was talking to a guy from school, we were planning to go out for ice cream together this weekend to get to know each other and see where things could go. i definitely could’ve handled that better if i wasn’t at work when he texted that (this conversation happened when i took my 10). i got left on read and also don’t think there’s anything else to talk about. AIO for being offended by his comments about weight?

Hi Reddit. Never really been one to post. But idk. This is more of a is he overreacting. So I f(25) have a best friend F(21) let’s call her Sarah. Sarah yesterday invited me on an impromptu dystopian photoshoot in the woods/ abandoned community. I said yes cause I really wanted to and we also brought our dogs. then told my bf M(40) that I was going. The way up there was about 2 and a half hours bc of traffic and getting a bit lost. I left my house at around 2:10 my friend is 15 min away. Then we went to auto zone, a Vietnamese restaurant and a gas station for snacks. We got to the sight around 5:30. My reception was cut off but we were there til until around 8:30 then again the ride home without traffic and being lost is about an hour and 45 min. We stopped at a bar to look at some digitals we took because I would have to wait to get the pictures before I got them fully. We were at the bar till 10:30 left and got back to Sarah’s house at 12: 45 we said our goodbyes to the photographer and I was extremely tired so I texted him that I was gonna sleep at Sarah’s . (Mainly because I had to be up by 4:00 for work. And this is the texts we’ve had this morning. Did I mess up? Am I wrong? I don’t want to lose him because I fucked up

EDIT: HE KNEW WHERE I WAS THE WHOLE TIME. He has my location so there’s no reason to think I wasn’t where I was supposed to be.

AIO for thinking that my friend lie to me? sorry for my bad english, it's not my first language.

I lent him money, and he was supposed to give it back to me yesterday, but instead of meeting, he sent me this picture and told he had some accident (pepper spray or sth) and he is in hospital bc he needs to have some kind of oxygen therapy (?). I think it's fake photo and I'm very upset, he insists it's real.

am I overreacting?

For context, the first two slides are him asking me to hangout after I hung out with him and his friend group, which was a lot of fun and we talked about different things for hours. He was cooking while the rest of us talked.

I am not the type to degrade myself or talk about feelings so I know for sure I didn’t say anything about my quality of life (my quality of life is good, I love my relationships and hobbies and I enjoy school).

I met this guy in my chemistry class and he said he does standup so I told him I would get people together to go support his openings. Anyways he ended up inviting me to hang and then he sent that weird meme (incel vibes). I tried to just ignore it because I like his friend group and it was fun the first time. Then I randomly get the text in third slide at work. I felt completely insulted and confused.

Especially when he later suggested I have “no sense of direction in life” wtf???

So yeah. Am I being mean? or is he literally out of his mind?

I’ve known her for 2 years and our friendship has never left school (Grade 12). You can’t tell me that isn’t AI writing in those long texts. I knew immediately in my gut but I was busy and didn’t read it fully until a few hours later. Not even saying you have to read the full convo, I just want confirmation that it’s AI and if it was fair to not engage with her bs.

I (28m) woke up to a text this morning from my best friend (28m) of 21 years after he went no contact out of the blue 8 months ago. No warning, no explanation. Just gone. He stopped answering calls, texts, I’ve tried showing up at his house to see if he was okay with no response. Any effort of support or encouragement on my end, was ignored.

Before this, him and I would talk on the phone multiple times a week and we would hangout quite often. We never fought or argued or had any kind of falling out. So for him to just disappear was confusing and sad. The first few months I was extremely worried about his well being. He’s always been the type to bottle his emotions and not talk about problems he’s dealing with. So I was concerned something happened that made him shut down.

That was until I found out he was still talking to one our mutual friends who lives in another state the entire time. I tried reaching out to the mutual friend and asking him if everything was okay and got left on reads.

After about 5 months I gave up trying to reach out. I started to accept that he didn’t want to be friends. Whatever reason he had was good enough for him to throwaway a 21 year long friendship. I’ve been grieving the loss of my best friend ever since.

Then this morning I woke up to this text from him. AIO for feeling angry and sad and like I don’t even want to respond back? Not out of pettiness but because he dropped me with no explanation?

I’m not sure where else to post this that allow photos. This was incident occurred last week. My now ex fiancee seemingly changed overnight. The current apartment we have has both our names on the lease. She’s been staying at her mom’s in the meantime. I didn’t kick her out. She made that choice by herself. She has been blaming me for nearly everything wrong going on. I honestly just needed a place to share this but didn’t know where else to go

I’m so anxious I literally puked. This guy has been giving me bad vibes. We were friends in college. we drunkenly hooked up once like 12 years ago. I moved around the country but came back to my hometown. We found out thru instagram we are in the same city. We’ve hung out twice since then.

My gut instinct went sour last time we hung out. I had said how I think I’m asexual and hate sex. He told me how he’s super horny all the time. Idk but my gut told me I’m not safe. I ignored it and we were going to hang out this weekend. Then he texted me this at 1 am.

I said no nicely. “Nah I love my bed too much” “I won’t be hanging out in your bed” “I think it’s weird” “beds are special… I can’t disconnect” “I don’t get in bed with people” “it’s a no from me dawg”

Just to be met with “a simple no dice would have been fine”. I said no. Several times. As nicely as I could.

I felt like he just kept pushing and I kept rejecting. I have an issue with guys not taking no for an answer from being raped (by friends) in the past.

All my red flags are flying.

Same thing that’s put me in dangerous situations before: i blame myself and tell myself I’m over reacting. I look for the good in people then something really bad happens.

So now im doubting myself. Is it harmless bedroom hang? Like why? Why not the couch? Why wasn’t the first “nah” not enough? Am I being weird?

All I know is I’m literally sick to my stomach.

Hi everyone,

I’m trying to figure out if I’m overreacting or if this was actually rude/something i should bring up at some point.

I (25F) went to my really good friend’s wedding. She didn’t have any official bridesmaids but I was her only unofficial bridesmaid. I wore the dress in the photos and the only “skin” was my arms and i guess my back as the dress had an X cutout which was covered by my hair.

The groom is religious and from a country near the Middle East with more conservative cultural expectations around modesty and clothing.

During the wedding, my friend told me, “John (fake husband name) leaned over and said, ‘It looks like (me) left half of her dress at home.’” She said it completely seriously, and she didn’t defend me or say he was kidding (I know he was not joking because I know how he is and his standards for my friend) nor did she say anything about my dress like it’s pretty or it’s good or fine.

Other guests that attended were wearing long dresses without sleeves, short tight dresses, long tight dresses etc. It wasn’t a super conservative reception at all, very informal and fun- drinking partying etc.

I felt really insecure and sad after and i’m just wondering why she would even say this to me. There have been other times where she has said that he told her I only got my job (a really good job) because someone in the interview thought i was attractive. Soooo it’s not just this one thing it’s plenty. It feels like I can’t do anything right?

So AIO? What do I do? Bring it up? Brush it off? Is the dress not okay for a wedding?

Thank you to those who told me under my last post that a specific phrase brought up my school! I'm reposting this so that if she reaches out, I can just send her the thread.

For context, I am F17 and she is F16/17 and we have been friends since sophomore year. I thought we were pretty close, we gossip at during the lunch block we have together and for the past week or so I have been sitting with her and her girlfriend at their cafeteria table during free block-- it is only them and one or two other people they do not know.

The first issue is that I invited a friend to sit with me at their table one day and the next day a different friend was there waiting for me (supposedly the girlfriend told him where I sat) and I invited two other friends. I apologize for this initially because I wanted to keep the peace, I don't really get how it was an issue but I was willing to give them a heads up beforehand from now on.

The second issue is totally out of left field. We were totally fine on Thursday, my "friend" seemed off but I didn't act too different.

Under my last post people brought up the touching thing; I rarely touch her. Sometimes our shoulders or thighs will touch from proximity or I tap her to get her attention/point something out, but nothing beyond that. She has never set a boundary for touching, ever, but I have noticed how she literally brushes herself off. It made me insecure for a while because it made me think she thought I was gross, so I keep my distance.

All year she wouldn't wait for me to pack up or wait for me to catch up in the halls, but she always said it was because she wanted to pick up her girlfriend from class so I never thought much of it, but I am starting to think it may be a part of this.

I truly am not interested in her, she is not my type and she knows it.

hi! im 17f and so is my friend. little while ago she started giving me some pets of hers in a roblox game so i could hold them overnight, she wanted to earn money and her laptop would slow down if she left it on autoclicker overnight so she gave her account to me.

essentially i just had to turn on autoclicker and leave the game on all night so she could collect money. however, when i woke up the pets were gone and neither of us know how.

i told her id try to help but honestly 4 grand is genuinely too much for me. AIO for refusing?

also: i covered the link cause i don’t wanna be accused of doing anything wrong by showing it on promoting!

I’m having a house-warming party tomorrow as I just moved into a new place and I’ve invited most of my close friends and family. One of my friend (in the screenshot) messaged me saying his grandma unfortunately passed away. She had been in the hospital for the past week so I was aware of her condition.

But this has just left me shocked and baffled. All I said was condolences and I’m not sure why this flipped a switch. Pretty sure he has blocked my number as calls and messages are not going through.

Oh my god I’m shaking right now so I’m sorry if this comes out confusing. I (20f) have a best friend (19f) and she has been dating this guy (21m) for about 7 months now. The screenshots are from her phone that I took and sent to myself.

I had a dinner and then hangout at my place for my birthday and she was ofc invited but then cancelled because of her boyfriend (who is very clingy) though she didn’t say it was because of him but I got that impression because he’s guilted her into cancelling before. To be honest, I was kind of upset because she’s my best friend and I wanted her to celebrate my birthday. I told her so. Last minute, she changed her mind and came out and I was really happy.

When we were out, he started blowing up her phone and demanding that she call him and come home. She was obviously shaken and finally showed me his insane messages and I told her she can spend the night if she doesn’t feel safe going home to him. She told him she’s staying the night and he flipped out and threatened to show up. We thought it was all talk but he actually did show up.

I was so scared and wanted to call the police but she begged me not to and left with him because she was embarrassed. I feel upset, scared for her (and me because how does the psycho know where I live??), and guilty for not calling the police while she was here. I’m very worried about her. I just want her to be okay.

Would I be overreacting to call the police now for a welfare check? She’s been gone for almost an hour.

Posting screenshots for context — looking for honest outside opinions. I’m fine with respecting boundaries, but I’m trying to figure out: were my texts actually overstepping? Was her reaction unnecessarily harsh? And how do you interpret that one message about her not speaking harshly — I’m not sure how to read it. Basically, I want feedback on my behavior, her tone, and that specific message.

so me and my boyfriend recently broke up, and i had been friends with my best friend for 4 years. i’m really hurt she did this to me and she’s being so rude and irrational. i feel like she betrayed me, stabbed my back. i don’t have time for these people of course, but i’m still in denial she did this, even after being friends for so long and being so close. am i overreacting?

p.s: i blocked her after this

edit: i didn’t realise i didn’t give context. me and my ex broke up a few weeks ago, and we were long distance so whatever. i’m the one who broke up and fuck him. my best friend does live closer to him than i do but still far. i don’t know if they were hooking up before. possibly. but at this point i’m trying not to waste my energy on her and care because i know i am better than this.

for context, we're both 18. this is my best friend since like 6th grade. he went out drinking las night, i had to stay back. then at like 11:30 he texts me this. this happened last night and i took the screenshots yesterday around midnight as well. is he being serious?

like we've joked in the past but it feels like he's actually being serious here and i need thoughts.

I don't know what to think and my mind is kind of spiraling which is why im posting here

ps. this is a burner because my friend knows my main account

also we're both guys

also ps. to everyone saying the burner is pointless, it's possible he won't come across the post. actually, likely. he doesn't use Reddit often. he pretty much only uses it when he's insanely bored or when I post something on my main account, because he follows me.

I don't feel I need to add extra explanation because the text messages speak for themselves. I want to thank everyone for all the support and advice from the original post, I've given the link below just incase anybody wants context-

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/s/8qXzPjKkTZ

I honestly feel very proud of myself for having the self-respect to tell him this and I feel like I've made the right choice. Once again, thanks for the love I got ❤️ hopefully this is it and I won't have to deal with his bs anymore.

For context, it’s my birthday on Saturday. My 2 friends and I planned a girls weekend at the lake with a cool air bnb. Today I received this text. I’m already so tired and have enough going on idek what to do lol.

Im not sure if im overreacting because I GET it, the restaurant is hard to get into. But I feel like because this is something we planned weeks ago, that this would come first…

I don’t even care to blur out my friends names lol they suck im so upset

For context, for my gf’s 30th birthday, her mom and I have been planing a super luxurious and decently expensive secret spa weekend for months now. It’s a secret she knows nothing about. One of my gf’s former coworkers texted and asked her if she wanted to go see a play the weekend we planned on sending her, an in a desperate attempt to preserve the secret, I texted her friend, who then responded with this. I didn’t think what I sent was rude, am I wrong here?

I am genuinely not sure if I’m tweaking. I used to date a guy about a year ago and this man was TOXIC to a T, stalking, threats, emotional abuse, everything that was bad

He doesn’t live in my country but he came a few times when we were still ‘okay’ but I never invited him to my actual home, we always went to Airbnb’s bc even when things were okay I didn’t want him to have my home address, and when everything started going downhill, he genuinely stalked my address with all the info he found out about me flew from his country to mine and came to my house

That was deadass one of the scariest times of my life, and I genuinely moved after that, I changed my number, I did everything so he wouldn’t come again

But apparently someone I considered a ‘friend’ has for one been talking and for two GAVE that man my phone number knowing damn well everything he did last time

I am so unbelievably mad, I thought I finally found peace and I’ve been healing over everything only to go right back to feeling completely unsafe again, but my ‘friend’ is acting like I’m crazy because it’s been a year and he’s ’probably changed’

AIO?