r/AmIOverreacting Dec 23 '25

👨‍👩‍👧‍👦family/in-laws am i overreacting??

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so i (21 F) never met my dad since i was born and last month he reached out to me the first time over instagram. i feel like he has been very pushy to meet up and i told him i’m not trying to rush things. tonight he was asking me questions to get to know me & this was one of the questions.. i never really grew up with a close male figure in my life but isn’t this question weird? i didn’t even answer the question when he asked i just skipped over it. it’s not his or anyone’s business about my first kiss and it’s weird to ask anyway to me.

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u/TeddyJMe Dec 24 '25

NOR “What did it feel like” WTF?!? The question was already strange as hell out of all the things to ask you he chose that?!? This is weird and honestly if you wanna still talk to him and build a relationship, a suggestion would nip this in the bud and tell him that that question made you very uncomfortable and to please not ask questions about your romantic experiences. I was gonna say romantic and sexual and thank god it hasn’t gone there fully, but kissing is on the boarder of that…and he doesn’t even know if it was during something sexual or just a kiss on a date or whatever was going on which makes his questions weirder…. it’s odd. Some may think “Maybe he wasn’t thinking” but the way he asked those two things leads me to think that’s a bs excuse. Idk in the end it’s up to you on what you wanna do. Just sharing my opinion.

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u/requiredtempaccount Dec 24 '25

It’s called “testing the waters”. Big red flag imo