r/AmIOverreacting • u/Nice-Community-4611 • Dec 23 '25

👨‍👩‍👧‍👦family/in-laws am i overreacting??

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so i (21 F) never met my dad since i was born and last month he reached out to me the first time over instagram. i feel like he has been very pushy to meet up and i told him i’m not trying to rush things. tonight he was asking me questions to get to know me & this was one of the questions.. i never really grew up with a close male figure in my life but isn’t this question weird? i didn’t even answer the question when he asked i just skipped over it. it’s not his or anyone’s business about my first kiss and it’s weird to ask anyway to me.

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u/Competitive-Pack1314 Dec 23 '25

That's a highly inappropriate question for a female relative, even if he's never met you. My dad was a pedo. When I aged out of his sexual abuse/grape he would ask me questions just like this one. I stopped going on dates with boys all together. I would tell him I don't want to meet him at all. That you're uncomfortable with his questions.

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u/Nice-Community-4611 Dec 23 '25

told him i didn’t like that question and he tried to back track completely saying it wasn’t weird and he was just “ curious”

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u/Competitive-Pack1314 Dec 23 '25

I think that's a huge red flag. Just keep it in mind as you move forward. If he has further boundary issues, don't take his gaslighting that he was just "curious". Did he ask you about your siblings, your school, job, if you're dating anyone, that's ok. About your first kiss and how it felt is just gross. And YES he still is just some WACKO off the streets to you.